The Truth About Growing Old Together

December 12, 2012

The Truth About Growing Old Together

December 12, 2012
The Truth About Growing Old Together
Pre-Op Waiting Room

 

It sounds so romantic when you are in the first blush of being in love… “We’re going to grow old together”.

The years stretch on and the blush of first love changes to something deeper and more meaningful.

If you are lucky, (really, really, lucky) you find that this person you’ve been married to all these years has become your best friend.

Yeah, there are wrinkles, hairs that poke out of places that never had hair before and bodies aren’t as strong, flexible and healthy as they once were.

 

The Truth About Growing Old Together
Surgical Floor Waiting Room

 

Joints start to ache and illness and injuries occur.

The expected biological changes that are a part of aging bodies take place and you find yourself faced with doctors’ visits, hospitals and surgeries.

 

The Truth About Growing Old Together

 

My sweet darling, my best friend, is having surgery today. Nothing major… Nothing serious… but my mother’s sister had triple by-pass surgery on Monday. It was scary and stressful and has me in a philosophical kind of mood.

I joke with the nurses, in a lighthearted way so that my husband might be less nervous. I kiss him good-bye as they take him off to the operating room and note that he’s already kind of doped up from the good stuff they put in his IV and he seems less strong, more vulnerable. and it makes me sad.

I step inside the elevator alone and cry a little as the reality of the situation hits me, as I let myself feel the bit of worry that is sitting in the pit of my stomach. As the elevator reaches the waiting room floor I take a deep breath, I imagine him home, under a car, swearing because things aren’t going together as they should. Healthy, strong and whole.

Then I square my shoulders, step off the elevator, and greet the receptionist with a teary smile and settle in to wait.

 

The Truth About Growing Old Together
Patient “Status” Board

 

As I sit here in the waiting room, drinking bad hospital coffee, watching the “status” board that lets me know where my husband is, I have a glimpse of what growing old together is really about.

I see now that there will be dark days in this “growing old together”. More physical changes to come – as I look at the age spots showing up on my hands.

There are lots of really good times ahead. Lots of love, travel, and life to soak up together.

There will also be sickness, doctors and hospitals.

Hopefully not too many.

But the experiences of the week just makes me more determined to enjoy every single day of health and happiness I can soak up before we are finished on this earth.

With my husband, my family, and my friends. Every, single day is special and I’m determined to find the joy in each day I’m given.

Vicki O'Dell

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  • Joan VanCourt December 16, 2012 at 10:31 am

    Oh, Vicki, hope that all went well with your husbands surgery.

    Sorry that I didn’t read your blog earlier. Lifting prayers up for your husbands quick recovery.

    What a beautiful post. Do you often wonder where all the years have gone? So nice that your husband is your best friend. I can totally relate to this post and am thankful that I also married my best friend. Now that we are empty nesters, how we have built our marriage and relationship, is clearly showing. It is nice growing old with someone that you trust with your heart and love.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • Jenny Rohrs December 15, 2012 at 7:07 pm

    This is maybe the best post you’ve ever written. My love to you both.

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