I discovered Reiki thanks to the fine folks at Stewart’s Caring Place just as I was entering my second week of radiation treatment last fall. I wasn’t sure what to expect as I’d never had a Reiki treatment before but I figured I’d try anything to help get me through treatment.
I’m a Sagittarius, we are kind of adventurous like that.
I’ve loved it and I’ve been going once or twice a month for treatment since. It is never exactly the same but always enlightening and relaxing.
I’ve come to trust and feel comfortable with a couple of the Reiki Masters there and I was talking with the Reiki Master as I got my latest treatment and she asked how my mother was doing. In the course of the conversation I said something about how I wish I could get down to see her more and that it makes me feel super guilty that I can’t go more often.
She said something that made total sense and I thought I would share it with you.
She said, “Your mother doesn’t need your guilt”.
I paused a minute and then she explained it something like this…
Your mother doesn’t need to hear about how badly you feel that you can’t be there more. She needs to feel your FULL presence and attention when you are there.
And that got me to thinking about all of the gajillion things we women feel guilty about – and if you grew up in one of those “guilty” religions like I did you can probably add another gajillion things to feel guilty about.
- We feel guilty if we work away from home.
- We feel guilty if we stay home with our children.
- We feel guilty for not exercising enough or eating right.
- We feel guilty for not going to church regularly.
- We feel guilty that we can’t be everything to everyone.
- And the list goes on… indefinitely.
The thing is, the world doesn’t need our guilt. The world needs us to be fully present in the moment not fretting on what we should have, could have, might have.
Don’t feel guilty about the endless list of things that we ought to be doing rather than the thing we are doing now. Be present in the moment.
Just imagine how much more peace you can have if you ditch that guilt. Who need it?